Are you afraid of change?

By Dana Judeh

As we said goodbye to 2017, we looked forward to the hope and possibilities that 2018 brings. Even though we are excited about the possibility of change (a new job, business venture, a new habit or relationship), some of us may feel hesitant or paralysed, creating our own obstacles or making excuses not to change.

This feeling is related to our present reality; it originates from either being stuck in our comfort zone, which makes it very difficult for us to take action and move forward, or because of past negative experiences that unleash an overwhelming number of questions:

Am I really making the right move?

How will my family and friends react to my new decision? What if I miss my old life?

What if this new venture will put me in a situation worse than what I have now?

Will I be overwhelmed by my new situation and decide that I am just not up to the challenge?

What if I fail? Instead of feeling a sense of eagerness about great chances for a better life, you might feel paralysed by a range of fears.

Change is always a bit scary. Even if we are sick and tired of our current situation, at least it’s familiar. We can operate within and negotiate familiar obstacles with relative ease. Starting to ask “what if” questions can keep us from feeling our way into a better reality.

“What ifs” are assumptions that are used to assure something with no proof. In order to overcome our fears of change, let us turn the negative assumptions of “what ifs” into positive and motivational ones:

What if I have a “Plan B” or “what if I expand my horizons to what I dream”? This can help you feel more confident about moving forward

What if I choose to see change as gaining better

and healthier habits instead of losing a presently comfortable lifestyle? The wonderful thing about change is that it is completely up to us how we decide to view it

What if I focus on certainty by surrounding myself with support? When change becomes challenging, focus on what you know you will always have like a trusted friend, supportive family member, your strong will or your special talents

Even with these tips that can help us overcome fear, it can be difficult. Remember, you do not have to become fearless. Understanding that fear is a self-defence mechanism will help you to not let fear be the factor that holds you back from change and living your full potential.

Reprinted with permission from Family Flavours magazine